In the social context: Same stuff, only you have no work
interests. If it’s a church group, all you think about is
church. If it’s a political group, all you think about it politics.
If it’s a boyfriend/girlfriend type arrangement, it’s
essentially the same thing as work, except that you have
no hobbies, friends or outside interests that your partner
does not share. Double ditto the bit about avoiding one on
one encounters, unless you are a skank.
Obviously you will not be able to pick winners from losers
at the beginning. You are strongly implored AGAINST just
using your common sense in this important task. We
instead advise that you act randomly at first, always being
helpful to some people and never having time for others.
Then see where it gets you.
The only thing you have to be is consistent during the
orbital pass. Here are your modes: (1) I am always
available and will help you to the best of my ability from the
point I am asked to participate in this task until its
conclusion or (2) I have absolutely no time or interest in
helping you with any aspect of this task whatsoever and
will always be doing something else until it is completed.
That’s it! No half measures, no half helping, no potential
availability. In or out.
Some parts of your role are compulsory. Most tasks are not. Never volunteer for anything. (More
later.) Always be asked. Chances are, if you always appear to be busy, you will be asked to do many
things. Although this concept may seem counterintuitive it is almost universally true. Just being busy
helps cement your landmark status. It also gives you an out to flash Mode 2--or if the task assigned
become horribly screwed up.
Mix it up. Do not pretend to have the ability to pick winners or losers on your own. Instead, be
scientific and measure results with people. But always keep in mind that people are random. You can
only know good orbital objects from a long term perspective. Sometimes a person who seems to be an
utter clown is actually perfectly adapted to his environment or is simply new to their assigned role.
Similarly, Ms/Mr Bigwig may be a burn out looking to foist blame or disagreeable tasks on
You are not at all emotional about
anything. This may be a challenge to you
basket cases. In reality reality, you have a
whole heck of a lot of other things to
emotionally invest yourself in. This is
poker, a game. Your objective is to play
with as much of the house’s money as you
can and be dealt as many hands as you
can. If you wig out, you blow it.
Before telling you how to gain more of the
house’s chips or continually be dealt into
opportunities, there are a few landmines
we have to warn you about. Some fields
are thorough dead ends. Collections and
warehousing come to mind, but there are
thousands of roles which simply have no
capacity to lead anywhere. Being the
second wife who is twenty years younger
and also out earns the male is a negative
sum game. Most roles, such as payroll or
even accounts payable, lead to what we
call islands. An island is a job unique to
you. You want to get to an island. You
want a job that you are the only person in
the building performing. Pretend to be an
island until you find one. If you do this
right, the powers that be will start clearing
out your space unofficially and then
appoint you to it officially.
|Sadly, some islands are landmines. Always try to have some reverse compatibility. Beware of any role
wherein you are suddenly doing something completely different. These are often disguised with terms
like ‘demonstrating versatility’ or ‘doing a hard job no one wants.’ The rule of thumb is to avoid any
role which physically isolates you from people or information. If you do wind up in one of these roles, it
is time to husband your sick and vacation days so that you can look for a new gig outside of the
organization. You have lost.
Chances are, you will find the island. Once you are there, avoid lapsing into classical orbital
behavior such as socializing only with peers, getting face time with your direct overseer, playing
yes man or making attempts to become associated with projects which are already successful.
That’s being a threat. That’s having an emotional commitment. You didn’t get here doing that.
You are a landmark and the mountains side with no regime.
This goes absolutely double for romantic relationships. And you know it, too! Obviously, the
reverse compatibility part may be a bit hard to pull off. You can’t really un-divorce someone, nor
is it recommended, unless you wish a fate wherein you are again un-remarried. By being an
island, we are suggesting that you be that special person whose favor is catered to, not
attempting a versatility impossibility, such as being a fifty year old trophy wife. Our rule of thumb
goes double down here. Again, sometimes you just lose.
Now that you understand the mental process, it is time to focus on the operating procedures
|Never Actually Say Anything
|Opinions are the toilet paper of decisions. By the time opinions are asked for, the thing is already
in the bowl. When you venture an opinion, you chance being stained by the decision’s failure or
being viewed as an obstructionist. On those rare occasions when your input is asked for before a
conclusion has been made, contribute only factual details. As the landmark you only deal in
FACTS and DETAILS. That is key to anything that you ever actually say. Other than that, you
don’t say crap. It’s the best way to keep crap from sticking on you.
|Keep in mind that most decisions
and conclusions are copy cat
affairs to begin with. No prizes are
awarded for opposing conventional
wisdom, which is almost universally
wrong. But opposing it just makes
you look like a weirdo. Don’t blow
on the dice. Just let the fool roll. All
decisions and conclusions will be
reversed and then modified. You
do not have a dog in this fight.
On the offhand chance that you are the decider, there are a few small rules to keep in mind. Cut
the decision into as many independent and replaceable parts as you can. Again, this may seem
counterintuitive since the more things you have, the more things you have that will break.
However, it is better to have many small things that might break than one big thing which, if it
breaks, dooms your process utterly.